Comments on: Value Yourself!

By: Tammy

Tammy — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 20:45:49 +0000

Yes, yes, yes. I hope many readers learn from this lesson. You can indeed exhibit confidence without being offensive, rude or self centered.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 20:44:43 +0000

Thanks for stopping by, Tammy. You’ve made a good point. Perhaps an attempt at good manners is at play. I still contend, as I’m guessing you agree, job seekers can exhibit confidence and still have good manners. “Lisa, this is Diane. We sat next to one another at the (blank) meeting…” is that polite reminder without suggesting the other person likely won’t recall who they are.

By: Tammy

Tammy — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 20:07:11 +0000

In workshops were people learn how to sell themselves, I have found that there are those job seekers who feel that they need to act humble in order to avoid being boorish. Women have told me that they feel very awkward and uncomfortable recognizing their accomplishments because they grew up in a world where this kind of behavior was not admired. Saying that “you probably don’t remember me” reveals someone who does not assume their importance to others. It may be a matter of just showing good manners. Could this be a form of false modesty in order to preserve a “proper” image?

I’m in total agreement with you that this competitve economy has left the very accomplished and competent with their tattered egos on the ground! People are losing faith in themselves and blaming all kinds of things as to why they can’t find a job as easily as they did before. There are many very valuable and capable people out of work right now who are trying very hard, but are only human.